JLo ‘using’ relationship with Ben Affleck ‘to make Diddy jealous’ as rapper is still her ‘true love’ after 2001 split

JENNIFER Lopez is using her “Bennifer 2.0” fling with Ben Affleck to send a message to the true love of her life P Diddy, according to a celeb photographer who covered her relationships for two decades.

The superstar, 51, has stunned the world in recent weeks with a steady stream of public displays of affection with old flame Ben following her split from former baseball slugger fiancee Alex Rodriguez.

Since her split with Alex Rodriguez the Latin superstar has put on very public displays of affection with former flame BenCredit: Getty
But photographer, journalist and socialite Selma Fonseca believes that JLo never got over her romance with rap mogul Diddy, also 51, and is still determined to make him jealous.

It comes after the father-of-six – estimated by Forbes to be worth almost $900 million – recently raised eyebrows by posting an Instagram photo of himself with JLo from when they were dating.

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Jennifer Lopez is only dating Ben Affleck again to send a message to the true love of her life, according to new bombshell claims

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JLo once dreamt of marrying and settling down with the rap mogul, says socialite Selma FonsecaCredit: Coleman-Rayner

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Fans were quick to speculate that Diddy, who was with the If You Had My Love singer from 1999 to 2001, did it in part to tease Ben, 48, but also to drop a flirty message to his one-time lover.

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JLo and Diddy at the surprise 31st birthday party he threw for her in a New YorkCredit: Coleman-Rayner

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Diddy lavished his then-lover with a huge blow out party including confetti, balloons and a big cakeCredit: Coleman-Rayner

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Selma Fonseca claims JLo made the first move at a Labor Day party at Diddy’s East Hampton mansion in 1999

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Diddy set tongues wagging when he posted an old pic with JLo after news broke that she is dating Ben AffleckCredit: Instagram/BACKGRID
Selma shared pictures with The Sun that show her in affectionate poses with Diddy and the two men she married after breaking up with him – backup dancer Chris Judd and Grammy-winning Latin heartthrob Marc Anthony.

Her camera also captured JLo getting steamy with Casper Smart, the toy boy who became her boyfriend following her divorce from Anthony.

Selma was present as Smart ran his hand suggestively down JLo’s bare back at the Weinstein Company’s 2013 Golden Globes afterparty.

She said: “Diddy was a guest at the same party, I noticed JLo and Casper sitting on a couch, he was caressing her back while Diddy was standing not too far from them.

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Toy boy Casper Smart stroked JLo’s back at a party in 2013 as Diddy stood nearby, according to celeb photographer Selma FonsecaCredit: Coleman-Rayner

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JLo dated Casper following her split from Latin heartthrob Marc AnthonyCredit: Coleman-Rayner

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JLo and Marc Anthony married in 2004, five months after she split with had split with Ben AffleckCredit: Coleman-Rayner

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The couple had twins together before splitting in 2011 and finalizing their divorce in 2014Credit: Coleman-Rayner

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Here the former couple are seen in an unearthed pic getting it on at a New York party in October 2004Credit: Coleman-Rayner
“And trust me – Diddy was taking notice.

“Now she is in very public places kissing Ben.

“The other day they went to paparazzi-infested Nobu Malibu and passionately made out and I think it’s all an attempt to get Diddy’s attention.

“She never got over Diddy. She wanted to get married and have a family with him.

“But he didn’t want to get married, and he hasn’t gotten married after all these years and she believed he cheated on her.

“I think JLo set out to show him that she didn’t need him and that meant she could never be alone.

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JLo and her second husband Chris Judd are seen chatting behind P Diddy at the Vanity Fair post Oscars party in 2001Credit: Coleman-Rayner

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JLo was married to the then-back up dancer for less than a yearCredit: Coleman-Rayner

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Her rekindled romance with Ben Affleck comes after she split from former baseball slugger fiancee Alex RodriguezCredit: Coleman-Rayner
“She married Chris so fast that it was like, ‘Forget it! You didn’t want me so I’ll show you I have someone else!’

“But the men after Diddy either turned out to be cheaters or were men JLo could control and they weren’t hot enough for a woman like her.

“JLo is pretty perfect in my eyes. Smart. Successful. Perfect body. Rich and she loves to have a good time and dance.

“She is Latina like me. We are passionate, loving, dedicated and we can get jealous.

“I could see and feel the chemistry JLo had with each of her lovers, and I think with Diddy is when she had the most fun and chemistry. “

Besides JLo, Diddy – real name Sean Combs – has romanced a slew of other glamorous leading ladies over the years.

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Celebrity photographer Selma says that JLo is ‘pretty perfect’ in her eyesCredit: Coleman-Rayner

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Selma believes JLo may end up back with Diddy in the endCredit: Coleman-Rayner

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The Brazilian socialite claims that Ben Affleck ‘didn’t seem right’ for JLo when they first datedCredit: Coleman-Rayner
His conquests include Cameron Diaz, Penelope Cruz, Sienna Miller, Naomi Campbell and Mariah Carey, to name a few.

However he was rocked by tragedy in 2019 when ex partner Kim Porter – the mother of three of his children whom he dated on and off for 13 years but stayed on good terms with even after their final split in 2007 – died at 47 from a lung infection.

Selma witnessed one of JLo’s first nights with Diddy at his beachfront mansion in East Hampton, New York.

She told The Sun: “It was Labor Day September 1999 and he was throwing a White Party.

“You had to be all in white, no off-white, no silver, no gold, if you were not wearing white Diddy would not let you in the party.

“I saw him coming out of a balcony off the master bedroom suite and JLo was with him. She made the first move.

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Jennifer Lopez is seen with then-husband Marc Anthony at a birthday party for rap producer Swizz Beatz in New York in 2006Credit: Coleman-Rayner

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Ben Affleck kids around with JLo at the premiere of their film Gigli in 2003Credit: Reuters
“She put her arm on his shoulder and she kissed him and there they were, making out a little bit and then he lit a cigar and they came downstairs.

“He was holding her hand and a Cuban band was playing and they started dancing. They had so much in common.

“They were both super hot, super sexy and she was starting her music career. They were made for each other.

“There were celebrities like Regis Phlibin, Vera Wang and Chevy Chase in the crowd.

“Marc Ronson was the DJ and a Cuba band was playing.

Diddy and JLo started dancing to salsa while his bodyguard held his Cristal champagne.

“Diddy always had two bottles of Cristal at parties. When he wasn’t dancing, he carried one in each hand.”

But that December, Diddy and JLo were caught in a brawl that culminated in a shooting as they were leaving a New York club.

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P Diddy carries his signature bottle of Cristal champagne as he embraces JLo at the surprise 31st birthday party he threw for her in New YorkCredit: Coleman-Rayner

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Selma believes JLo and Diddy were ‘made for each other’Credit: Coleman-Rayner
“That put a dampener on her relationship,” Selma said. “It was not a good look to be out for the evening with someone who has a gun.

“Diddy tried to make up for it. He threw an incredible surprise party for her 31st birthday at Lotus Nightclub in New York. It was a huge blow out with confetti, balloons and a big cake,.

“He invited celebrities like Justin Timberlake and NSYNC and he also invited her family and his mother Janice Combs and he put a big photograph print of JLo’s baby picture on the wall. It was such a sweet gesture.”

JLo said she finally dumped him because he was a serial sex cheat. “Plus he was always on-and-off with Kim,” says Selma.

Her marriage to Judd broke up after she met Ben Affleck on the set of Gigli movie. “They got engaged,” said Selma. “I was surprised. I’d partied with Ben on several occasions like the Vanity Fair post Oscar Party.

“He  was very charming and fun – and he could drink.

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Ben Affleck takes in an LA Lakers game with then-fiancee Jennifer Lopez in May 2003Credit: Getty

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The former Bennifer couple, seen here at the premiere of his 2003 movie Daredevil, have rekindled their romanceCredit: Reuters

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JLo and Ben spent time at her home in Miami Beach last monthCredit: The Mega Agency

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The couple reportedly spent most of their time in the upstairs bedroom and balconyCredit: The Mega Agency

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Ben dressed casual as he was spotted popping out for a smokeCredit: Splash
“At one point I noticed he was holding two drinks, one on each hand, and he sounded funny, like slurring his words.

“Diddy could drink champagne all night and I never saw him drunk. JLo is really into taking care of herself, she barely drinks alcohol. Ben didn’t seem right for her.”

Selma deduced that the affair was another attempt to “make Diddy realize what he’d lost.”

JLo’s high-profile romance with Marc Anthony began in September 2003, three days after her split from Ben.

“They had twins and their marriage seemed happy but I heard Marc cheated on her,” said Selma. Though Anthony denied being unfaithful, they split in 2011.

She dated Casper Smart, who was 17 years her junior, for two and a half years, sticking with him despite claims – which he strongly denied – that he sexted transsexual models.

“They broke up in 2016,” said Selma. “And then there was A-Rod – another known cheater – and now there is Ben again.

“Someone told me JLo wants to break Elizabeth Taylor’s record, she who married seven times but I think she still is jabbing at Diddy and maybe it’s working, with that old picture of them together that he tweeted.

“I think in the end she may be back with him.”